so much for the social
Sunday, January 18, 2009
you know, sometimes...reading other people's blogs scare me. No Kiddin'.
I'm pretty sure everyone, at some point of their lives, would have met someone. Not someone special, but just someone who isn't exactly...say, normal?
Speaking for myself, I've met and known quite a number or people, and of course, getting to know them one person at a time is something exiting. However, all these years, there are just some people you wouldn't be able to just get though to. This....thing has been at the back of my head all the time, but today, as I type these words, I may have just found out what exactly this is.
I have a few things I believe in. One of these is that everybody is human. Everybody has feelings, and everybody deserves equal treatment as such. Especially if the people were to be in the same community.
...
I know, I know. You're probably wondering what does blogs scaring me has to do with all this. I say, continue reading. Maybe you would get what i'm hitting at then.
"The people who you wouldn't be able to get through to", is difficult to explain. I'll give an example. How bout, you meet this Chinese guy whose command of speaking English is not good, but fair. Impression is, he probably does not know the English language very well. Or so you think.
How bout another example. This time, a girl. Say, there's a girl seated right at the back of the class, keeping everything to herself and does not talk much, except to close friends of hers. Impression is, she probably is not a very social person. Or so you think.
Ever gave a thought about the people, who simply talk really, really loud and smile throughout every single minute of the day at the same time? In their heads, are they really smiling? or is it just a mask?
How bout the people keeping quiet? How do they stay that way? Do they have some kind of secret underground life that helps them spice up their life in replacement of their quietness to the social?
I don't know how other people are simply able to ignore all these weirdlyness everyday. The most common thought going around about these people is probably "aiyah, these people are just like that lah...what to do?". Personally, I find it quite hard to believe such kind of sterotyped thinking. To me, it feels wrong. Maybe because it's an assumption. I don't know. Thing is, people like these, when I think about them, they baffle me. It's just...not human...
...Or so you think.
The scary bit is, these people seem to lead a really shallow life, but acutally, they don't. If you're lucky enough, you may actually stumble upon one of these blogs, which viola. It's a whole new way at looking at that person. It's scary, actually. What even scarier is that is completely voids the "aiyah, they're like that one la" thinking, and instead, shockingly validates that...these people, no matter how happy or quiet, are human. They have a life, emotions, and stuf. All you need to do, is to hit their blog's address (even by accident), and let insights begin.
Maybe the saying is true afterall. The happiest people are people who make life happy for themselves. Sometimes, this comes back right up to me. I've been told several times that I come across as a cheerful person, but, to be honest, I've got alot in my life I have to be sad, angry, and dissapointed about. Maybe it's because I want to mask these things to the outside world, that I appear to be cheerful. I like being cheerful, but that doesn't mean I don't feel sad at all, right?
I've really learnt to relate this to pretty much everywhere else; people are just simply not as shallow as they can appear to be. When such a shallow person all of a sudden gets overcome by emotions, they cry, feel angry, and want to be left alone....it comes as a shock, because usually, the emotions come across as very deep and powerful. When I see something like this, I just can't help but to feel for them. I know so many people like these that I wish I could help, but...
Let's take a few exmaples. I've been going around , visiting other people's blogs here and there. I learnt that Ernest got a little worked up on how he couldn't decide, I heard HY bitching about some cliuqe meeting and talking about girlfriends (AND somehow, her boyfriend, for that matter), and Geok Shan just posted a incredible list of new-year resolutions. Stuff like these. Stuff like this is just all over the place. At school, to me, Ernest is a light-hearted intelligent joker who works hard (and does not overwork), and HY is a seemingly happy and candid girl. How about Geok Shan, she's cheerful...........right?
All this shallow impressions have all been proven wrong already. It's crazy stuff. I don't know how these people get the drive to do such things. Maybe it's just me and my lack of self descipline. But still ....damn. The drive these people have that keeps them propelling foreward...I don't know what it is...but it's incredible. It's impressive. I never got the drive to push myself to even do things I want. That's probably why my studies and my life is screwed up. Everybody is probably getting out and doing things, but i'm just rotting away at home, in front of my almost too big widescreen. I wish I could do so much, but I just can't. It's not just seeing cheerful people at school being seriously serious in what they write in thier what-should-have-been-a cheerful blog. It's more than that. It's crazy stuff. Topping all this off, it's deep. Very, very deep. It's something close to the heart, and shouldn't be meddled around with.
I've only understood so much. It just isn't enough; it's crazy stuff. Maybe, slowly, one day. I'll understand....
...One day.
and oh yes, thanks to Geok Shan's wonderful web coding talents, this blogskin is officially out of beta. Thank you Geok Shan!
I'm pretty sure everyone, at some point of their lives, would have met someone. Not someone special, but just someone who isn't exactly...say, normal?
Speaking for myself, I've met and known quite a number or people, and of course, getting to know them one person at a time is something exiting. However, all these years, there are just some people you wouldn't be able to just get though to. This....thing has been at the back of my head all the time, but today, as I type these words, I may have just found out what exactly this is.
I have a few things I believe in. One of these is that everybody is human. Everybody has feelings, and everybody deserves equal treatment as such. Especially if the people were to be in the same community.
...
I know, I know. You're probably wondering what does blogs scaring me has to do with all this. I say, continue reading. Maybe you would get what i'm hitting at then.
"The people who you wouldn't be able to get through to", is difficult to explain. I'll give an example. How bout, you meet this Chinese guy whose command of speaking English is not good, but fair. Impression is, he probably does not know the English language very well. Or so you think.
How bout another example. This time, a girl. Say, there's a girl seated right at the back of the class, keeping everything to herself and does not talk much, except to close friends of hers. Impression is, she probably is not a very social person. Or so you think.
Ever gave a thought about the people, who simply talk really, really loud and smile throughout every single minute of the day at the same time? In their heads, are they really smiling? or is it just a mask?
How bout the people keeping quiet? How do they stay that way? Do they have some kind of secret underground life that helps them spice up their life in replacement of their quietness to the social?
I don't know how other people are simply able to ignore all these weirdlyness everyday. The most common thought going around about these people is probably "aiyah, these people are just like that lah...what to do?". Personally, I find it quite hard to believe such kind of sterotyped thinking. To me, it feels wrong. Maybe because it's an assumption. I don't know. Thing is, people like these, when I think about them, they baffle me. It's just...not human...
...Or so you think.
The scary bit is, these people seem to lead a really shallow life, but acutally, they don't. If you're lucky enough, you may actually stumble upon one of these blogs, which viola. It's a whole new way at looking at that person. It's scary, actually. What even scarier is that is completely voids the "aiyah, they're like that one la" thinking, and instead, shockingly validates that...these people, no matter how happy or quiet, are human. They have a life, emotions, and stuf. All you need to do, is to hit their blog's address (even by accident), and let insights begin.
Maybe the saying is true afterall. The happiest people are people who make life happy for themselves. Sometimes, this comes back right up to me. I've been told several times that I come across as a cheerful person, but, to be honest, I've got alot in my life I have to be sad, angry, and dissapointed about. Maybe it's because I want to mask these things to the outside world, that I appear to be cheerful. I like being cheerful, but that doesn't mean I don't feel sad at all, right?
I've really learnt to relate this to pretty much everywhere else; people are just simply not as shallow as they can appear to be. When such a shallow person all of a sudden gets overcome by emotions, they cry, feel angry, and want to be left alone....it comes as a shock, because usually, the emotions come across as very deep and powerful. When I see something like this, I just can't help but to feel for them. I know so many people like these that I wish I could help, but...
Let's take a few exmaples. I've been going around , visiting other people's blogs here and there. I learnt that Ernest got a little worked up on how he couldn't decide, I heard HY bitching about some cliuqe meeting and talking about girlfriends (AND somehow, her boyfriend, for that matter), and Geok Shan just posted a incredible list of new-year resolutions. Stuff like these. Stuff like this is just all over the place. At school, to me, Ernest is a light-hearted intelligent joker who works hard (and does not overwork), and HY is a seemingly happy and candid girl. How about Geok Shan, she's cheerful...........right?
All this shallow impressions have all been proven wrong already. It's crazy stuff. I don't know how these people get the drive to do such things. Maybe it's just me and my lack of self descipline. But still ....damn. The drive these people have that keeps them propelling foreward...I don't know what it is...but it's incredible. It's impressive. I never got the drive to push myself to even do things I want. That's probably why my studies and my life is screwed up. Everybody is probably getting out and doing things, but i'm just rotting away at home, in front of my almost too big widescreen. I wish I could do so much, but I just can't. It's not just seeing cheerful people at school being seriously serious in what they write in thier what-should-have-been-a cheerful blog. It's more than that. It's crazy stuff. Topping all this off, it's deep. Very, very deep. It's something close to the heart, and shouldn't be meddled around with.
I've only understood so much. It just isn't enough; it's crazy stuff. Maybe, slowly, one day. I'll understand....
...One day.
and oh yes, thanks to Geok Shan's wonderful web coding talents, this blogskin is officially out of beta. Thank you Geok Shan!
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